Party boat host asks guests to pay for food, drinks, and gas after the party, one guest refuses to pay, claiming they didn't know it was required: ‘I pulled Jake aside and asked him what was going on’

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Jun 18, 2025 7:00 AM EDT

No matter who you are and how much money you have in your bank account, nobody likes to be blindsided into spending money they never planned on spending. It doesn't matter if it's $5 or $500, it's never fun to let that money go when you were not expecting that to happen.

When you are out with friends, finding yourself having to spend money without warning happens quite often. Who here wasn't dragged on a spur-of-the-moment adventure that ended up being quite costly? Who here didn't have to pay their way out of a night that has gone wrong? It happens, and usually the only thing to do is accept it and move on (and maybe send your troublemaking friend a Venmo request later).

However, sometimes you find yourself paying money for something you were not planning on spending simply because someone withheld information from you, and that is more frustrating than any money-spending scenario we can think of.

That is what happened to the college student who wrote the story below.

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  • When this friend was invited to a party on a boat, they thought it was a free event. But when the party was over, the (very wealthy) host pulled out a calculator and told people they had to pay $150 for the expenses.

    Blindsided, this one friend, who cannot even afford to pay that much, was left hurt and confused, feeling like they were cheated into paying money they didn't have…

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    AIO for being shocked when a boat party host asked me to pay for food, drinks, and boat fuel afterwards?

    My friend (let's call him Jake) invited me to a party on his friend's boat. I'd never met the guy before, but from what I do know about him,
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    he's wealthy. Surgeon. I figured it'd be a cool experience so I said yes The boat was actually really nice. There were beers, seltzers, and some mid-shelf
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    liquor. The host had ordered trays of food (wings, sliders, fruit, etc.), and even brought out a jet ski at one point. Kinda made me feel like sh : about myself how nice this dude had it
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    Anyways it was a great day. We were out for like 4-5 hours. I had a few drinks, ate some food, relaxed, met people. Everything seemed super casual until we got back to the dock.
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    That's when the host goes, "Hey if everyone could just Venmo me $40 for food, $35 for drinks, $50 for gas, and $10 for the jet ski, that'd be awesome."
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    I thought he was joking but everyone pulled out their phones like this was to be expected. I pulled Jake aside and asked him w was going on, and he goes "I should've
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    mentioned it my bad" like no sh?? It's not even just the money tho it's the way it was handled. I would've been fine
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    if I was told in advance. But springing it on people after the fun's been had is sleazy as f especially for this literal surgeon who owns a boat
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    If I'd known this was basically a $150 group outing, I wouldn't have come. I had like $100 to last me the rest of the weekend (Im in college dont judge). Now I
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    feel like I'm stuck. Either I don't pay and look like a leech, or I send what I can and still come off weird. It's been a day now and the host is texting Jake when I'm going to pay
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    Inevitable-Minute808 Been on both sides of this. When i was young and broke a handful of times throughout the years I was fortunate enough to attend these cool parties. Not once did the host ask for anything. First time i went to
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    one I offered a few bucks" for gas " and the host took me aside and told me I didn't have to and next time please don't ask in front of people as it is not necessary. I now host a nice
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    spread once a year and would never ever ask anyone to pay. It's a party not a fundraising thing. I want my guests to have a good time and enjoy some of my hard work.
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    Masteryasha Real talk, this wasn't part of the agreement. It should've been mentioned earlier in the night if the host was especially worried about it. Like you said, you wouldn't have come if you had known.
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    Right now, I'd say just let your friend know you won't be paying since you can't afford it. He can let his friend know, or just pay your share himself since that was essentially what he
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    signed up for by not mentioning it. If he throws a fuss about it, you know he sees money as more important than you in this case, and can move forward with that knowledge.
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    Psychological-Fox97 I don't see an issue with the host as this was clearly expected by others, and as long as it's made clear ahead of time, it's totally fine. You don't know what his actual financial situation is.
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    Your friend, however, is a massive AH for not mentioning it beforehand. That's a real d move. It depends on how much you're bothered about the boat guy. Pay it and keep the peace or tell him your friend never
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    mentioned paying when he invited you, so it's between them to figure out. Might lose a friend, but it seems like a pretty friend anyway.
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    Electronic_War1616 You are not. Someone invited you to a party, then expected you to pay. Don't, let Jake pay because it is his bad. Jake took advantage of you. Tell Jake that the bill was unexpected and you believed it was an
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    invite and would not have been able to afford it otherwise. He is lying about a rich guy asking for money.
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